No Common sense

 

08/05/2025 | 1:56 am.

Let me tell you the story what happened today. I went to Gurudwara to learn Harmonium.

I was early today and very few kids came by the time I reached. So guruji gave me chance to play and then told me to wait for Tabla class.

Guruji who teach table went to have his food and we all kids were waiting. There were few ladies also who came with their kids for music classes.

This is the free class session happens 3 days in a week. There were two kids around 10-12 years old who were doing Tabla practice. One of them also showed me how to use fingers at the right place.

 

There was one small kid , may be 3-5 years old was playing very nice table. I felt like making his video or photo. So I asked a lady who was sitting next to me that is this your Kid ? she says yes !

I asked for her permission if I can take a photo of the kid he is playing so nicely . But she says NO.

I also dint say anything after that. after sometime guruji came back from his Food break. All the kids started coming in line and being a biggest learner I dint do the same thing and waited for my turn.

After two three kid’s turn I went near the guruji and asked for my turn after the current kid’s turn.

He said ok. When the current kid was playing, there was also another kid playing next to him who recently showed me how and where to use fingers on table. So he was playing so nicely and I was just being happy seeing his performance, but the lady who was sitting next to me started saying why are you watching my Kid continuously ?

I was shocked not even close to understand what just happened. and she complain to Guruji that he was taking photo. I responded I was not watching your kid and the pic I was asking about that small kid who was playing table.

Then Harmonium Guruji called me and asked what happened.  I said Guruji it was not her sone I wanted to take pic it was that 3-5 years old kid who was playing table so nicely.

And after she said no I dint take the pic also. And here I was just looking at the another kid who was playing. Guruji said don’t take anyone’s photo here I said ok and went back to my seat.

That Lady started gossiping to other ladies about the incident. Everyone started looking at me. After my table turn I started going out and then I sid sorry to that lady sahying if you felt bad or anything I am sorry but I dint mean that to take any picture and she started arguing.

After few seconds gurji said you go home. And to that lady guruji said he said sorry now please don’t drag it .

I felt so uncomfortable to understand what my mistake was here ?

What and why she felt bad. She was not in a good mood already. I was just the excuse to let her anger out.

I felt like crying. Then two of my friends came to meet me at home. I already had dinner at Gurudwara, so I still set with them and enjoyed their company, tried to be fake but I was feeling so bad inside me.

After they left I told the story to my roommate about the day what has happened.

What he said it happened because you don’t have common sense. That word touched my emotions. My roommate said I was inside my room and you just knocked and open the door. That means you have no common sense.

He also said I am doing same thing with everyone. I don’t make good eye contacts with his friends also . Everyone felt uncomfortable at home when they are here . they way you look at them is not good.

He made me believe that I have no common sense but then I cried and accepted it may be you are right.

Then he went inside his room. I called one of my best friend back in India asking if this is true ? do I make people uncomfortable? in my today’s incident is there anything my mistake or you felt my bad intention?

He said no you are absolutely right, and you did the right thing to me mingle with people.

Don’t thing too mutch.

Take away:

1.    Don’t make eye contacts with the people and not to try to be mingle.

2.    don’t every try to open someone’s room after knocking wait for them to come and open.

3.    Stop explaining yourself to others better open the laptop and tell how your feelings in words to speechless papers.

4.    No need to share your pain or happiness ..just keep it with books.

Signing off at 2:20 am