No Common sense
08/05/2025 | 1:56 am.
Let me tell you the story what happened
today. I went to Gurudwara to learn Harmonium.
I was early today and very few kids came by
the time I reached. So guruji gave me chance to play and then told me to wait
for Tabla class.
Guruji who teach table went to have his
food and we all kids were waiting. There were few ladies also who came with their
kids for music classes.
This is the free class session happens 3
days in a week. There were two kids around 10-12 years old who were doing Tabla
practice. One of them also showed me how to use fingers at the right place.
There was one small kid , may be 3-5 years
old was playing very nice table. I felt like making his video or photo. So I
asked a lady who was sitting next to me that is this your Kid ? she says yes !
I asked for her permission if I can take a
photo of the kid he is playing so nicely . But she says NO.
I also dint say anything after that. after
sometime guruji came back from his Food break. All the kids started coming in
line and being a biggest learner I dint do the same thing and waited for my
turn.
After two three kid’s turn I went near the
guruji and asked for my turn after the current kid’s turn.
He said ok. When the current kid was playing,
there was also another kid playing next to him who recently showed me how and
where to use fingers on table. So he was playing so nicely and I was just being
happy seeing his performance, but the lady who was sitting next to me started
saying why are you watching my Kid continuously ?
I was shocked not even close to understand
what just happened. and she complain to Guruji that he was taking photo. I
responded I was not watching your kid and the pic I was asking about that small
kid who was playing table.
Then Harmonium Guruji called me and asked
what happened. I said Guruji it was not
her sone I wanted to take pic it was that 3-5 years old kid who was playing
table so nicely.
And after she said no I dint take the pic
also. And here I was just looking at the another kid who was playing. Guruji
said don’t take anyone’s photo here I said ok and went back to my seat.
That Lady started gossiping to other ladies
about the incident. Everyone started looking at me. After my table turn I
started going out and then I sid sorry to that lady sahying if you felt bad or
anything I am sorry but I dint mean that to take any picture and she started
arguing.
After few seconds gurji said you go home.
And to that lady guruji said he said sorry now please don’t drag it .
I felt so uncomfortable to understand what
my mistake was here ?
What and why she felt bad. She was not in a
good mood already. I was just the excuse to let her anger out.
I felt like crying. Then two of my friends
came to meet me at home. I already had dinner at Gurudwara, so I still set with
them and enjoyed their company, tried to be fake but I was feeling so bad
inside me.
After they left I told the story to my
roommate about the day what has happened.
What he said it happened because you don’t
have common sense. That word touched my emotions. My roommate said I was inside
my room and you just knocked and open the door. That means you have no common
sense.
He also said I am doing same thing with
everyone. I don’t make good eye contacts with his friends also . Everyone felt
uncomfortable at home when they are here . they way you look at them is not
good.
He made me believe that I have no common
sense but then I cried and accepted it may be you are right.
Then he went inside his room. I called one
of my best friend back in India asking if this is true ? do I make people
uncomfortable? in my today’s incident is there anything my mistake or you felt
my bad intention?
He said no you are absolutely right, and
you did the right thing to me mingle with people.
Don’t thing too mutch.
Take away:
1.
Don’t make eye contacts with
the people and not to try to be mingle.
2.
don’t every try to open
someone’s room after knocking wait for them to come and open.
3.
Stop explaining yourself to
others better open the laptop and tell how your feelings in words to speechless
papers.
4.
No need to share your pain or
happiness ..just keep it with books.
Signing off at 2:20 am
